Michael Lodge, NCPM
Several times in 2020, and into 2021, I have been asked to mediate reconciliations of grandparents with their Grandchildren. Their children had cut them off from seeing their children, Grandchildren. Parents using their children as a game piece to hurt their parents. This cut in relationships is usually from something done in the past that should have been taken care of through just talking it through. Resolving the issue. But egos get involved, words and actions go out of control, and a response to cut off relationships start. A mediator is asked for. However, hearts have become so hard by this time that mediation can't even begin.
When a dispute or conflict begins, mediate it quickly before it grows and gets out of hand. Often families need mediation to resolve these differences, misunderstandings, or other issue that may have started the dispute. But cutting ties with a Grandchild to hurt someone else is just mean. If abuse has happened, that is another story. However, most of the time the dispute started from something small that could have been resolved. Sometimes, we humans just never grow up, do we?
I love this quote, "What children need most are the essentials that Grandparents provide abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And most importantly, cookies." - Rudolph Giuliani
Don't miss out on the cookies. If you have a dispute with your child that has blocked you seeing your Grandchildren. Hire a mediator and resolve the issues before time passes by and all the cookies are gone.
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